Challenge reminder: Recognize feedback that comes to you every day, and identify what type of feedback shuts you down.
This may have seemed like a task too simple to really engage you, but I hope you did. Because nothing changes in your behavior until you understand your current state.
Ask yourself the following three questions and take a second to think about the answers.
-How did you respond to the feedback?
-What form did majority of your feedback take?
-What form did you reject?
This challenge has been given to you, but why? Because leaders are seekers of improvement, and unless it’s the smoke alarm going off from what you’re cooking, feedback almost always requires a living breathing human.
You might think that you’ve experienced enough “feedback” up to this point. Of course you have. For many of us, “feedback” has a negative connotation. Please remember that the whole point of all these posts is to deepen your leadership abilities. Because the deeper they go, the greater your effectiveness in the work place. And searching out feedback is one of the best ways to learn.
Becoming an active receiver of feedback is the goal, because it’s an achievement that makes all the difference. So let’s work at this one week at a time. If you didn’t recognize how you receive and are given feedback, take the opportunity to do so this weekend. And, remember that learning to take the feedback will also provide great lessons on how to provide it.
The superb source behind many of these ideas is the book Thanks for the Feedback by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heene.