Friday check in.
Quick reminder of the challenge: find out if you’re a conflict seeker or avoider.
So how’d it go? What did you find out about yourself? It probably wasn’t on your mind all week, but did you learn what kind of approach you hold to conflict? Do you avoid it or seek it?
Did you find yourself eager to engage in disagreements to get a point across? Or shying away from it to keep the harmony.
It’s important to note that it’s not about which ones better, each equal each other with their pros and cons. However, it’s vital that we learn to bring out the strengths in our different approaches to conflict.
Conflict avoiders often experience residual effects. Back pain, head aches, weight gain. Living with the constant replay of situations where they were stepped on, but put up with it for what seemed to be the greater good.
Conversely, conflict seekers also have a biological draw to their way of confrontation. When someone wins an argument, a chemical rush of endorphins rushes in. Like any action that brings those chemicals, it can be addicting. However, the effects are much further reaching, and can lead to trampled team members, and relationships that may be hard to repair.
Once again, one is not better than the other. Let´s work in the next few weeks to start on a path to making conflict resolution your greatest strength
There are a multitude of great sources for information on conflict resolution. We have chosen to use, as a principle source for the next few weeks, the superb work by Amy Gallo, Managing Conflicts at Work, published by Harvard Business Review.