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This month is emotion month. Now you might think, “my emotions are totally in check, I don’t need this.”
That might be true, but for the other 99% of us who struggle to not let our emotions eat away at us after an argument we lost, a patient who didn’t seem to realize you have 15 just like him, or a boss that is driving you up the wall. Well, we’re writing these posts for you.
Every conflict has emotion. If it didn’t you would most likely be a robot.
Whether it’s anger, frustration, revenge, sadness, or the other hundreds of emotions you could be feeling, both you and your partner in conflict will always have one thing in common: emotions.
Emotions left unchecked are maybe accepted in situations of falling in love, or developing new hobbies or passions. However, our emotions in the workplace, if left unchecked, can lead to damaged relationships, and burned bridges. Now you might think, “well they need to know I’m angry with them because they were an idiot.”
Although a valid excuse for many situations, you occupy a leadership post. Although we are all human, leadership is about accepting the human side of everyone else, and working with potential, no matter how hard it might be to see it.
Now this may seem like a very preliminary challenge, but it’s important for us to start at the basics. So here it is: find one moment, in every day this week, where your emotions boiled over.
Why? Because recognizing emotions is the first step and it will build a ground work for you to master your emotions. Why such a simple challenge? Because it’s not! Recognizing that your emotions boiled over isn’t easy. It takes humility and accountability.
If you think no one sees these emotions, it doesn’t matter. Any emotion that carries long past the conflict is an emotion gone out of check. We all have them. Take this week to recognize them.
Beyond Reason, the capstone book of Roger Fisher’s amazing career in conflict resolution, is the source of the information in this blog-post.