Her senior year of high school, our daughter Emma expressed her desire to be a professional chef. Her mediocre cooking skills she slowly improved. After years of cooking and baking for her friends, they suggested she open up a restaurant. So she deferred a semester of school and borrowed the dream of her friends and spent time in Italy working in a farm-to-fork restaurant.
Upon her return, she reported that she loved to cook, but that she would never want to own a restaurant. Were her efforts a failure? No! But was it her dream? No. She had borrowed it. In reality Emma had never wanted to open a restaurant. But wanting to please her friends, she pursued that route.
I use this as an example and reminder. An example of taking initiative to follow your dreams, and a reminder to make sure they are your own. Anyone else’s dreams that you pick as your own are self defeating, and you might as well stop reading.
We hear many success stories that begin with, “A young woman or young man…”
We rarely hear, “In her 55th year, things changed.”
The challenge of today is to start small: write down your dream, then write down some things you need to start doing every day.
If you want to become a pilot, write down things like:
Today I need to: reasearch flight schools near me, start saving for lessons, schedule my first lesson.
Every day: I need to study about flying so I don’t let me dream collect dust, save up money for lessons, prepare my schedule to have time for lessons.
If you want to run a marathon:
Every day you need to eat healthily (break down what that means) run (break down how far) get a support system (write down who)
If you want to move to the next level of your medical profession:
Today: what are the next steps? Write them down. Establish a timeframe for each step.
Month: who have you talked to about the next steps? What commitments have you made? Who will hold you accountable to the dream?
No real dream was ever achieved on accident. Dreams are achieved in detail.